Dealing with Grief

Depression. Reality eventually sets in. We are confronted with the necessity to go on with life without the one we have loved. It is easy to get plagued with the thought of what should have or could have been.

For many, this seems to be the most difficult stage to go through. Signs of depression include a feeling of melancholy, unconcern about the outside world or a loss of interest in eating and sleeping. Feelings of guilt, helplessness, hopelessness and worthlessness are common during this phase.

During this phase, we need to keep in mind the positive aspects of life we shared with our loved one. Memories are golden and are to be cherished as long as we live. These are a treasure that nobody can take from us and are part of the legacy our loved one left behind. It is important to realize that we need not walk alone in our grief. There is fresh air to breath, flowers to enjoy, and the universe is watching over us. Like they say in The Bible, 'I will never leave you nor forsake you.' So we may boldly say: 'The LORD is my helper; I will not fear'" (Hebrews 13:5-6).

For those of us that have faith, it helps to remember that we need to keep the lines of communication open with God. He can help us deal with grief. Ask Him for strength and courage. "Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need" (Hebrews 4:16). He is the "God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation" (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)".

Acceptance. Eventually, as we deal with grief, we start to understand and accept that we are beginning a new chapter in life. We learn a new normal, new realities that we need to adjust to because we are in a new situation. Because of the trial we are going through, we become stronger, deeper and better for having faced and endured this great difficulty. Over a period of time, our emotional balance returns little by little, like the healing of a physical wound.

The time needed for the healing process can be different for each person, some may still feel emotions such as guilt, depression or anger. This isn't necessarily negative, it just means that the loved one impacted their lives in a powerful way and is still missed. These feelings are to be expected; they're normal.

No one can ever take the place of a loved one we have lost. But we will come to the point where we're ready to move forward and meet new challenges.

This too, shall pass. Time is a great healer. This is especially true in the case of loss of a loved one. If you want to share your problems with us and want us to help you with the tough phase you are passing through, click on the I Need Help tab below!


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